Internet commentators were quick to call an unemployed Reddit user who complained that her savings account was being used to contribute to monthly household expenses.
Redditor u/throwawayaccount3172 (aka the original poster or OP) stated on Reddit’s popular r/AmITeA**hole forum that he recently quit his job and is paying bills without a steady income. They had expressed their reluctance despite her lover’s insistence.
title, “[Am I the a**hole] How can I tell my friend that he hasn’t had to fight a day in his life and doesn’t want to back out of our agreement?” The post had received over 4,200 upvotes and 1,900 comments in the first 11 hours.
“I recently moved into my friend ‘Sam”s apartment,” the surgery began. “He comes from an upper-class family and is very nice.”
“Coming from middle class, I’m not nearly as close to him,” the OP said.
Explaining that he was quitting his job “due to some workplace issues,” the OP explained that he’s not currently looking for a job and doesn’t plan to do so before the end of the year.
The Redditor also said that while she’s saved enough money to stay away from work for a while, she doesn’t want to use her savings for household expenses, which is very disappointing for her boyfriend.
“Sam asked me to contribute 50-50 for bills and other household items a few days ago,” the OP wrote. “It is currently distributed based on our income.”
“I told her no because I don’t even really have an income right now, but she said it was ‘my problem’ and I had to take it from my savings,” the OP continued. “I said we agreed in advance to split everything by income but they said I don’t have a job so they have to deal with that.”
“I said I’ve been working too hard for my savings and he can’t tell what I’m doing with it and I need some left over for my stuff,” the OP said. “Sam was very upset and said I was ‘selfish’ and ‘separated from him’, but I said that wasn’t the case at all. [and] He won’t understand because he never had to fight a day in his life.”
For most couples, being together is exciting and a step towards a life together.
But like many other shared apartments, disagreements over money can quickly dampen that enthusiasm.
To avoid conflicts over rent, utility bills, or other shared expenses, real estate website ApartmentSearch recommends that couples implement a strict cost-sharing system that outlines each partner’s monthly responsibilities.
Whether it’s a traditional 50-50 split system, an equal-costs rent split, or an income-based percentage split, the most important factor when it comes to couples living together is accountability.
For couples to be successful together, each partner must put an end to the trade—even if it doesn’t seem necessary.
Members of Reddit’s r/AmITeA**hole forum immediately called a Redditor for not making fun of shared household expenses. Above is a depiction of a couple disagreeing over spending. fizzcase/iStock/Getty Images Plus
Through several references to her boyfriend’s wealth and a well-paying job, the OP makes it clear that he can keep the couple afloat for some time, allegedly using his savings to cover half of their expenses. refused to do.
Redditors who responded to the viral post scoffed at the notion.
During the comments section of the post, Redditors slammed the OP for stating that he was financially exempt from paying dues because he quit his job, and broke down his friend’s assessment of the situation.
,[You’re the a**hole]’ wrote Redditor u/Temporary_Badger in the top comment of the post, which received over 9,000 upvotes. “You agreed you would contribute based on income and then quit your job thinking it meant you didn’t have to contribute.”
“You’re a complete idiot to take advantage of him and he’s right when he tells you he’s not going to live with it,” he said. “They realized that you have no intention of making a fair contribution, but are using their money as an excuse to do nothing.”
Redditor u/FireWaterGold, whose comment received over 5,000 upvotes, echoed this sentiment.
“Split rent based on prorated income is what you agreed upon… but before you decide to quit your job,” he wrote. “If you were struggling financially… you shouldn’t have quit before you found another job.”
“You have to pay exactly what you paid before you left the job,” he said. “Your employment status has nothing to do with it. The amount of money they have is irrelevant… they take advantage of them.”
“Looks like you’re trying to find a gap in your log,” Redditor exclaimed u/tlf55, receiving over 1,000 upvotes. “You should have had a discussion about how this would affect the household before leaving… Instead, you should just pay him for it because he earns all the income.”
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